In this short series I want to share with you 4 discoveries I made when I sat down to seriously analyze why I had not found the success I had dreamed of many years ago. Over the next four posts I will cover each of my 4 Discoveries
I made no room in my life for my dream.
I consider myself a highly motivated individual that loves GOD and enjoys exploring the possibilities of life. Being creative and finding the right solution through prayer and good council is a #1 priority for me and has always kept me driven to succeed in whatever I do.
Like most everyone else I have heard, read and seen about all the motivational material anyone can stand in one lifetime. I used to be a junkie for all that stuff until I realized that I was spending more time reading, listening and watching this stuff and getting excited about my dream than I did actually doing something about pursuing it. I also realized that at the same time, I was helping someone else finance their own dream.
I was so caught up in imagining my dream but never really moving forward with achieving it.
Speaking for myself and I believe for many of you, I found that for me there was a sort of disconnect between getting motivated about my dream and actually getting on with achieving it. It was so easy to look forward imaging what it would be like if my dream were to come true but so hard to actually imagine my next step across what usually seemed like a huge gap between where I was right now and what I saw as my dream. I could describe my view of my dream like looking up to a mountain peak. I could imagine the beauty of being up there, what the view would be like from the peak, and how much fun it would be skiing down the perfect white slopes. But what I couldn’t see was the road that led up there because it was hidden just beyond the trees in front of me and that is where my focus was…on the trees. And as I walked through the trees I lost sight of the mountain. In other words I lost sight of my dream. I would catch a glimpse of it again every once in a while but the trees in front of me kept most of my attention. But I discovered that there were silent obstacles that I allowed to stand in my way.
Discovery 1: I made no room in my life for my dream!
After taking a look at my life and my day to day activities and what I was doing with the 24 hours God had blessed me with each day. ( And this was NOT a deep introspective look, it was simply a glance of my calendar) I discovered I wasn’t making time for my own dream. I know you will understand and agree that Life has a way of taking control of your time before you think about it. Between work, and family and church and kids activities and friends, then couple that with a personality that will most often say yes to anyone’s request for help and before long my days were either full or I was tired and wanted to rest. I couldn’t figure out how to fit anymore of anything into my already busy life and through all this busyness my dream sort of got lost. I’m not sure of exactly how my life got so busy and my dream so lost, I mean, I didn’t plan on it being that way but at the end of the day, I did know this:
I hadn’t done anything significantly different today than I had done yesterday.
But still, sometimes I would day dream of find myself laying in bed thinking the “what my life would be like if….” scenarios. Then of course tomorrow it would be the same thing and each day after that, over and over again. It was a vicious cycle. Don't get me wrong here, I didn't hate my life at all, I simply felt like there was more to it all that what I was doing each day.
If I had learned one thing being in the sales field for over 30 years it was that people will always make time and spend money for what they find important in their life. Think about it, have you ever seen a $500 car driving down the road on $5000 worth of rims and tires? Or seen a Corvette parked in front of a tiny rundown house. Or maybe you know that one person that can barely afford food but has a $2500 vacuum cleaner. These may be extreme examples but in much the same way I had the same problem. I simply gave too much importance and too much time to things that were not as much important as they were simply in front of me. I had not made my dream a priority. I had not given time to my dream.
When looking at what my days were like I realized that I had in fact made time for a lot of things in my life. Activities and tasks that offered zero movement forward to my life. They were things that filled my time but were of little significance. They were simply things in from of me and I guess I felt some sense of obligation to do them, I don't know but I did know that if I could spare even 20 minutes in my day for these sorts of things that brought no value to my life surely I could find 20 minutes of time to do something that would be significant in my life.
I simply had to make those significant things more important than those un-significant things.
If you have a dream and it’s still sitting on the shelf way in the back of your daily life, bring it out, dust it off and give YOUR dream a few minutes of your time. Make it a priority to do something, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem to take a step forward towards that dream.
Its important to make time for things that are important to you, Its important to make your dream important because it is certainly not important to others. They have dreams of their own. Its up to you to make time for your dream.
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