As I looked through all the definitions of success I found this very short definition to be most common:
“SUCCESS is the accomplishment of an aim or a purpose.”
I found that almost every definition of success inferred that it was an achievement found at some termination point. That it is always defined and thought of as an end result of the pursuit of something.
But in order for us to begin feeling truly successful about our lives right now we need a REAL definition; we need to redefine what success looks like in our own lives not what it looks like to others.
Looking at success the way we have always been taught to see it inspires feeling of anxiety, stress and failure especially if we fall short of our goal. Even more so if we define our success by comparing them to the achievements of others. And if you ever feel like you have fallen short by comparison, then it will be difficult at best for you to see the success you already have achieved and become.
By redefining success and looking at it as something far more reaching and fluid we will be able to see success in our lives every day. For example if you were to ask a practicing dentist if he was a successful dentist, I think he would probably chuckle and say something like “I must be, they haven’t revoked my license yet and I still have patients.” Success to him is something achieved every day and not defined as an accomplishment at his retirement from dentistry.
So lets redefine what success should really look like, shall we? SUCCESS is NOT the accomplishment of an aim or purpose but is rather:
“The positive emotions felt from progressive achievements while pursuing a goal, aim or purpose”
For most of my life and I know I am not alone in this, I always felt pressure while working towards finishing whatever it was I was reaching for or working on and anxiety and frustration because I hadn’t gotten there yet. But when I finally did get there it was a sigh of relief and a short lived feeling of success and accomplishment before I set my sights on the next goal. Then of course the cycle of frustration and anxiety started all over. I had achieved a lot in my life but never seemed to enjoy the accomplishment as much as I thought I would nor for as long as I hoped I would.
That was before I began to believe this one principle I had heard but was never "taught" to understand:
Experiencing happiness and success was in the journey, not in the result.
If I had only learned to feel the success of the journey I would have also felt the long term happiness that went along with it instead of those feelings being so short lived in the end. I also imagine that I may have seen even more opportunities along the way if I had not had such desperate tunnel vision looking at the final goal and not seeing the success all around me already.
Don’t mistake what I am saying here. Having focus on your goal is imperative. You will never get to where you want to go without aim but while you are driving down that road to where you want to go, don’t forget to look out the side windows. You might be amazed at the wonders you will see making your journey far more successful along the way which in turn makes the final destination that much more extraordinary.
Realistically success in business and in life means something different to each of us, and it should because we all have different ambitions and ideas of what is important to make our lives feel fulfilled. Whether you are striving to be a great teacher or building an empire, in any case, if it seems to others that you have succeeded but you feel no attached happiness from the journey getting to where you are now, then you have not succeeded at all.
You may have achieved but you have not succeeded. Achievement is always attached to specified results, monetary or physical things but feeling successful is always attached to the happiness found in the progression from one achievement to the next.
If you think about success as something you experience as you progress, instead of something you attain once you’ve accomplished, you will also begin to experience the happiness and joy that comes from the journey itself instead of the pressure and frustration of not yet having arrived.
I think this too is worth repeating and thinking about for a minute. If you think about success as something you experience as you progress, instead of something you achieve once you’ve accomplished, you will also begin to experience the happiness and joy that comes from the journey itself instead of the pressure and frustration of not yet having arrived. I’m not sure about you but feeling successful makes me feel happy. And when I am happy I feel successful. And when I feel happy and successful I see happiness and success all around me. You just can’t separate the two because they are so closely dependent on each other .
“Successful people are not necessarily happier people but happier people are more successful”
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