Do you allow others to determine YOUR excitement for Your dream?
In this short series I want to share with you 4 discoveries I made when I sat down to seriously analyze why I had not found the success I had dreamed of many years ago.
Over the next four posts I will cover each of my 4 Discoveries.
Like most everyone else I have heard, read and seen about all the motivational material anyone can stand in one lifetime. I used to be a junkie for all that stuff until I realized that I was spending more time reading, listening and watching this stuff and getting excited about my dream than I did actually doing something about pursuing it. I also realized that at the same time, I was helping someone else finance their own dream.
I was so caught up in imagining my dream but never really moving forward with achieving it.
Speaking for myself and I believe for many of you, I found that for me there was a sort of disconnect between getting motivated about my dream and actually getting on with achieving it. It was so easy to look forward imaging what it would be like if my dream were to come true but so hard to actually imagine my next step across what usually seemed like a huge gap between where I was right now and what I saw as my dream. I could describe my view of my dream like looking up to a mountain peak. I could imagine the beauty of being up there, what the view would be like from the peak, and how much fun it would be skiing down the perfect white slopes. But what I couldn’t see was the road that led up there because it was hidden just beyond the trees in front of me and that is where my focus was…on the trees. And as I walked through the trees I lost sight of the mountain. In other words I lost sight of my dream. I would catch a glimpse of it again every once in a while but the trees in front of me kept most of my attention. But I discovered that there were silent obstacles that I allowed to stand in my way. Four of them actually.
RECAP- Discovery 1: I had no room for success in my life!
I discovered I wasn’t making time for my own dream. Life has a way of getting out of control. Between work, and family and church and kids activities and friends, then couple that with a personality that will most often say yes to anyone’s request for help and before long my days were either full or I was tired and wanted to rest. I couldn’t figure out how to fit anymore of anything into my already busy life and through all this busyness my dream sort of got lost. I’m not sure of exactly how my life got so busy and my dream so lost, I mean, I didn’t plan on it being that way but at the end of the day, I did know this:
I hadn’t done anything different today than I had done yesterday.
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Discovery 2: Others didn’t share the excitement of my dream as like I did!
Nobody felt the same way about my dream as I did even though I thought they should, or at least would. When I looked around at where I was in my life, the people that surrounded me, my friends and even my family, I realized that they simply did not understand or share in the excitement I had about what I felt was a greater purpose for my life.
To be totally honest I have to this day, loved ones in my life that will simply blow off the conversation whenever I bring up the topic, never acknowledging its importance to me or what I have done thus far in my efforts to reach for it. My dream to them is a non issue at best. I have had others that told me how ridiculous they thought my dream was, pointed out the all the downsides, obstacles and sacrifices that would have to be made, and even tell me what kind of fantasy they thought it was. And the worst of all opinions was "Who am I to think that I could do that?"
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe any of them meant their comments to cause me any harm or hurt my feelings although they did; as a matter of fact each of them in their own way truly thought they were helping me. ( i assume that and quite honestly would like to think that) And of course they all told me they would support me in whatever I wanted to do, that they would encouraged me and even help me along in my efforts and I truly like to believe they would, But in the end that never happened. And unfortunately, without realizing it at the time, I had allowed all their opinions and comments to dampen my excitement about my very own dream. I also remember feeling like I was the object of silent ridicule by these people because of my dream and I know I didn't like that either. Not only did their thoughts, comments and opinions dampen my excitement, it actually made me question if they were right.
But I came to KNOW one huge truth!!! It doesn’t matter that others don’t believe in or have excitement for my dream. l After all, it's MY dream not theirs.
I realized that I had allowed the fact that other people didn’t see my dream as I did to directly affect how I actually saw my own dream. I realized how absolutely insane that was! IT WAS MY DREAM NOT THEIRS! Why should I even have thought in the first place that they would think the same way I did about MY dream, let alone feel the same way about it and worse yet, let their thoughts affect mine? It’s my dream and my job to make it a priority and actively pursue it no matter what.
No one was going to ever have as much desire to achieve my dream as I would. And if I lacked desire and didn’t reach for my dream then how would that affect everyone else? NOT AT ALL! They have their own dreams. When I realized that I had let all this negativity affect my subconscious so greatly, that I convinced myself they were probably right and I had I let those people steal my drive to have better without even realizing it., I knew that this was something I had to change. This was something I could do.
I could believe in my own dream and this time I could also believe that it’s okay if others don’t share in my excitement.
It was time to take charge of my dream and stop allowing other people to dictate my future. There are always going to be people that will criticize, diminish or even pay no attention to your dream. That is part of life BUT when I decided that I will no longer allow that stuff to influence my vision for my dream, things started to happen. And even though those closest to me don’t feel the excitement of my dream... I simply remember this …..They are not supposed to, that’s my job!
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